Annette’s blog
Welcome to my blog.
In this section I write about topics that play a role in and around a separation, about needs, values and feelings. It gets personal here. That’s why I’m on first names basis here with my readers.
Toxic relationships
Partnerships are based on mutual attraction - inexplicable, magical, all at once. What everyone desires most deeply is an "attraction of inspiration" fed by benevolence, affection, eye-level and security. But there is also that other kind of attraction...
How do you help your children through the separation?
You know that breaking up with your partner is unavoidable, it just cannot go on any longer. Terrible, because everything you've believed in is now bound to dissipate. For a mother or a father, the greatest concern is the well-being of children: how will...
The real reason why you are nagging
Sometimes everything just gets to be too much: The bread crumbs in the kitchen, the worn socks in the bedroom, the open lipstick in the bathroom, not to mention toothpaste out of open lids or all the stuff around the house that could use a refill – you've...
Pamper yourself
You're an achiever, aren't you ? You perform all your duties, as an employee, a father or mother, as a partner, in institutions as a social being. The household is running smoothly, the children are fine, the daily program is always set. And there is...
You’re special
You are special, unique, a sparkling diamond. Beautiful, smart, warmhearted. You have many wonderful qualities, many strengths, a few endearing weaknesses, you are an all-out wonderful human being. Someone special.This is a deep conviction of mine about...
Your ex keeps ignoring your informal agreements
As if breakup wasn’t painful enough: everyday you get into discussions on the simplest of things with your ex-partner because he/she keeps ignoring your informal agreements. Or changes his/her plans last minute, and thereby your plans. He is so...
Your (ex) partner is narcissist
Narcissists are people who appear charming and confident at first sight. But they are in fact deeply insecure and blame everyone else for everything. Denying their own mistakes and twisting facts. The need for permanent recognition is like the air the...
Love yourself
Healthy self-love is one of the cornerstones of a good partnership, nourishing parenting and happiness.
Who makes you happy?
Happiness is a strange notion sometimes, isn´t it ? Are you feeling happy right now? Sometimes we don´t, sometimes we do, but that’s not a given. We think of happiness as something fleeting and often we look for it in outer appearances or we expect other people to make us happy. This can put a heavy burden on a partnership.
What do you stand for?
Have you ever considered and formulated the values you have? What values does your partner have ? Or should have (when you’re single)?
